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Today we live in a time where marriage is not predictable and lasting. Social taboos no longer insist that the marriage needs to continue in spite of the odds. Relationships are now based on open-hearted choices, and emotional forces between the husband and wife play a larger role in keeping the marriage going. There is no perfect relationship because there are no perfect people.
Nothing on this earth can turn your partner into the person you want him or her to be.
Nothing or no one can guarantee to keep your marriage together. Each and every one has to work towards keeping it going.
Marriage does not automatically sort problems for you.
Being in love will not automatically sort out the problems for you. You are responsible for your own happiness. If you think that your partner is going to make you happy after you get married, you are wrong. You cannot expect someone else to make you happy.
Marriage is not like the wedding party or honeymoon - pure bliss. Focus and plan for your life after the wedding as much as you plan for the wedding day itself. Find out about how life is going to be after the wedding. Because that is reality and what life is really going to be about.
You cannot live on love without information Find out everything about your partner's lifestyle, family, health, financial status, hobbies, personality quirks, and anything that strikes you.
Ask questions about everything you can think of and do not be afraid to hear something you do not want to hear.
You may not get perfect answers but you will get an idea of what life is going to be like.
Answers to all little questions may at times make you change your mind about your partner or the wedding.
Thinking helps us arrange the various details in our mind. But it is our feelings that make the choice for us and this automatically leads to the decision. Do not ignore your real feelings by being caught up in the wedding preparation.
You have to be selfless and do things for your partner.
Be prepared to make adjustments to make the marriage work. You are not responsible for yourself alone after you get married. You have to think of your partner too.
Your ups and down will increase two-fold. You have those of your partner too.
When you look for someone else in your partner, it could be the beginning of your troubles. Problems do not break up relationships. It is your approach to the problems that make the difference.
Issues that you have not sorted out before your marriage will not automatically get sorted out after marriage. You have to work on them and sort them out.
Some of us unconsciously become more rigid. We are so scared of losing out on our identity that we hold on more firmly to what we believe in.
When you move from one relationship to another, things are not going to be dramatically different because you are still taking yourself with you wherever you go. Unless you see things differently, things are not going to work out differently for you. | 
