The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
purplefairy | 26 April 2009, 10:45am
It occurred to me yesterday, that when playing the field with an older woman, guys tend to do the ‘cute act’, which basically translates into- yeah, acting babyish, throwing endearing tantrums and displaying their vulnerable side to get extra mileage, in general.
This ‘cute-stuff’ is done by all, irrespective of whether they are suave managers or macho biker- dudes. And honestly, if you are a woman with enough intelligence to color your little toenail, you can make out it’s so desperately fake and attention- seeking. But, awww..what the heck! They’re so cute doing their act, that you’d hate to burst the bubble. And it probably works too, considering most of my men were younger than me.
A lot of women I know, dating younger men, are sometimes enamoured by older men as well. I'm no exception to the rule, but there are just fewer of ‘my sort’, and even then, the equation has always been rife with conflict. As a rule, I prefer simple men, who believe in romantic love and mush more than egoistical, power-driven hedonism... I don’t intend to date Einstein, even though I respect all forms of knowledge. I prefer gender-sensitive men, who are more up-to- date with social changes, and I prefer men I can build and contribute constructively to, via my own distinct identity (and vice-versa). Most of all, I prefer lovable men, and so obviously, my vote goes to younger men.
The older men I meet are often repulsively weak and chauvinistic, with petty insecurities which they intend to rain onto their partners. Their power is so flimsy that they feel threatened by their own spouses. Mostly, their lives revolve around petty incidents of male dominance and sabotage. The company of an older man, who’s attempting to thwart my growth, repulses me too much to even consider a romantic future.
However, I have been intensely drawn to the rare older man who is in a position of power, is supremely intelligent, enormously confident but unfortunately, still very dominating. What sets him apart from others of his ilk is the noble impression of strength and the awareness of responsibility that he gives, and one respects that. I respect power and strength and know that not everybody is responsible enough to be strong, or strong enough to be responsible.
But I’d still choose to spend my life with a man who star-gazes with me, and then, lets me use my female intuition to tell the future. As Fiona Sera said, I live for romance and mush.
Love and Kisses,
Purple Fairy
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1Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
purpla | 27 Apr 2009, 3:55pm
But Einstein would know he was Einstein, if he really was Einstein.
Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
the horny janitor | 27 Apr 2009, 3:15pm
and how does a guy know if he's einstein
Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
purpla | 27 Apr 2009, 2:10pm
Hey, but I don't know enough about the shift in US policy in the middle east :(:( And imagine writing a post on politics... Ewwww!
How does a guy know if he's older or younger than I am? Hmmm, it's tough to make out online, no? Anyway, one rule of the thumb that could apply is that all Einsteins are strictly Older.
Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
the apprentice | 27 Apr 2009, 1:11pm
to show that you have truly put a lot of investment into yourself, make your next post one on the possible outcomes of the shift in the US policy on the Middle-East :). of course,you can say you don't need to prove anything to anyone. and to be fair, i dont know many men either who can make a post on that.
how does a man know if he's older or younger than you :)?
Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
purpla | 27 Apr 2009, 11:18am
The man-woman debate is so endearing that it could go on for ever, couldn't it? Being a woman is certainly an extraordinarily special gift,despite all the real-life constraints, which a positive attitude makes light of.I agree that if more women focussed on being world-wise and transferring their natural leadership traits from the home to the work front, the world would be a happier place for all.
Women choosing their mates is a natural outcome of wanting the right returns on the investment of time, effort and money they spend on themselves, all to ensure they are impressive enough.If that sounds too cheesy, which I know it does,what I meant to say was that women put in more effort.
Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
the apprentice | 27 Apr 2009, 11:00am
of course, that comment was not intended to be critical of purple fairy - this was a nicely-written post about her preferences, and she has every right to have her opinions and preferences. it's just that this appeared an appropriate place to air a general grouse i've had for long :).
Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
the apprentice | 27 Apr 2009, 10:55am
what gets my goat is how women keep talking more of what kind of man they want, and less of what they have to offer. how many women try proactively to be knowledgeable or good at an art or brilliant at academics or leaders?
most women think the battle is won just by being born a woman, and then they go around judging the men around. men at least take the trouble of doing things that they think will impress women.
worst is when women say they won't even work out to stay in shape since they want to be loved as they are.
i guess for most women there are real-life constraints that men will not know of, but i am talking of women who have strong opinions on the kind of men they will entertain.
Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
purplefairy | 26 Apr 2009, 4:18pm
I did! It still looks the same as ever, though :(
Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
the horny janitor | 26 Apr 2009, 3:47pm
pls increase the font size
Re: The 'Cute Act' and why they get away with it
Aran | 27 Apr 2009, 7:32pm
If he doesn't, there's always the hair. Look in the mirror. :D