my space!!!!!

After I grew up and started analyzing my own mind harder, I realized that it was when there were pretty girls around that I actually lost my peace of mind. I wanted to impress them, get to know them etc. And since it is mostly impossible to get to know a pretty girl unless she is being formally introduced to you, most of the times you end up feeling pretty restless when you might have been perfectly easy if there were no girls around.

A truth that dawned upon me quite late in life. I like to stay away from places with too many girls, exactly the opposite of what it was when I was in my late teens / early 20s.

I think most of you would have realized this - that when a good-looking girl is around, most of your attention is towards there, but when she goes away, you stop thinking of her almost immediately.

In general, I think most of the reason for several guys losing their equanimity is girls, either in person or through media (photographs in newspapers/magazines/billboards, TV channels, etc.) Stay away from all of these, and you'll realize a whole new peace. Of course, most of this is relevant only to single guys.

As a single guy, i agree with some of what pmow says but losing our equanimity? By looking at newspapers/magazines/TV/billboards?

really?
REALLY??

FYI, not all guys are single by compulsion.

A whole new peace you say?

Can't in your life get to talking to a pretty girl on your own?
DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

You might discover a whole new happiness.

Also, about the relevance of beautiful women to single guys, I am SURE guys who are in relationships are reciting the hanuman chalisa when a good looking girl is in the same room.

First, what exactly is the point of talking to a pretty girl? How many pretty girls you know (you = aloque) know who the Home Minister of India is? Who the Vice-President of India is? Who the Finance Minister of India is? Who the Speaker of the Lok Sabha is? What India's GDP is? What today's newspaper headline is? How many of them know the answer to even one of those questions above?

They're all dumb, with all due apologies. So there is no question whatsover of a whole new happiness, unless what you are looking for in a girl is only her body proportions (only exception being when you yourself are in the same intellectual league as the girl, in which case you'll enjoy talking to her). If you are still seeing a whole new happiness in wooing pretty girls, we have a lot of catching up to do.

Then, I've long since stopped talking about how many pretty girls I have wooed.

Still, attraction for the opposite sex is something God has cursed humans with, so when a pretty girl is around, you can't help thinking about her. When you've conquered that, you've done it all.

You missed the point, dude, since you were too excited by your own interpretation, which gave you a mouth-watering opportunity to differ eloquently. You did not see things from the point of view of a guy who is trying to stay away from it all, and finds that it isn't simple due to all the stimuli in the environment that we live in today. That was the point of the billboards/TV channels.

About the peace of mind thing, you haven't even thought so far about how much space is freed up in your mind and how much tranquilty you achieve when you aren't bothered about the existence of women. I pray that someday you experience that world, too.

Oh dear heavens... is this true?... should i believe my eyes?...
You (you=PMoW) are actually breathing and living among the rest of us?...
"They're all dumb, with all due apologies".... Should i start ripping that line apart? or would i just be adding purpose to your dull day?.
Staying away from pretty women just because you can't get them and then colouring them dumb...obviously quite a healthy way to look at things...
luv.

I think I know who you are, Dr. Aghast :)! You really think I can't "get" pretty girls? You really do?

How right you are :)!!! There, now you don't have to worry about lending purpose to my day, my week, my life, whatever.

Most pretty girls are dumb, Dr. Aghast. I would not discriminate against people on the basis of something they can't help, something they are born with, but being knowledgeable is something completely in your hands. That's why I have no qualms about calling them dumb.

I do not have any qualms about you calling them dumb. But jus the use of the word "dumb" is kinda inappropriate. Ain't bein dumb bein stupid, being..umm.."unwise" or even "unintelligent"?
Since when did a wealth of knowledge/trivia equate to intelligence or heck even wisdom?
Since wen did a guy care abt his girl bein "India's Child Genius" or whether she was able to win "Who Wants to be a millionaire?" ?
One doubt, is a girl who is capable of carrying on a intelligent conversation with you and yet totally ignorant of the trivia you mentioned still labeled "dumb" by you?
i jus see that as a fallacy in ur comment..plz clarify if ur labelin of "dumb" is based purely on GK...

Okay, the use of the word "dumb" as in "not intelligent" was inappropriate. And I'm glad you saw that that's not what I meant :)! I meant dumb as someone who is pretty unknowledgeable about the important issues facing the world around her.

And those questions were not trivia - they are everyday newspaper banner headlines. Lack of that knowledge betrays a complete lack of general awareness. And no girl who doesn't know those kind of things can hold an intelligent conversation with you. The moment the conversation leaves your personal lives and your likes and dislikes - the Netpals kind of thing - what is left? It doesn't take too much for anyone to talk about his or her own likes and dislikes, and there is little scope for intelligent conversation there when that is all you are going to talk about.

As you'll realize, you'll soon wear of girls who can only talk about relationships and feelings, and their families and their interests.

awrite...now we're getting somewhere.
Lets take your argument at face value again.Sure,the questions were not trivia but dude, they were still "general awareness". There's jus so much more under the sun to talk about..movies/blogs/life...can't think of anymore 'coz i jus woke up.... :-)
The only reason I'm nitpicking on your comments is 'coz you are an intelligent creature, proved beyond doubt, and if the examples you take to prove your point do not have any weight in them..ummm...then I have to nitpick.
OMG the results the out!! I'm off!!
:O

You seem to have a perception about me, which means you probably know me... Who's the culprit? If it's a she, she's dead :).

Dude, you probably haven't ever conversed with a girl with a logical point of view on just about everything, who's ambitious and who's successful. Someday you will. You better be like that yourself by then if you want to stand a chance, since it's out of question that you can be indifferent to her.

And yes, she will able to talk about movies and blogs, too :). And she'll tell you a lot of things you don't know about those, too :).

Hey Mr.I-cant-put-2-n-2-together...gess wt...unlike you...i CAN put 2-n-2 together...lets jus say dat one fateful afternoon in Shout It Out enlightened me 'bout your identity.
Noone's the culprit. Though SHE never told me you were intelligent. I made that assumption myself.
Again, lets approach your statements in a purely logical manner. I'd like to believe I have conversed with a girl with a logical point on everything under the sun, and yes she IS ambitious and successful. You would know her too, it ain't the same "SHE" mentioned above.
I can never be indifferent to intelligence.
Dude...one small word...you're losing d point of dis..we're losin d point of dis..
n dear amita...i'm not commentin here..i shall stick to my word on that..i'm jus talkin to mr.PMOW here... :-D