In Continuation
enigma | General | 26 February 2007, 12:32am
Mandira Bedi making news as she fills her wardrobe with sassy clothes from tubes to corsets, and cricket inspired Satya Paul Saris. She declares herself to be the eye candy in cricket...I pity India's fate.
Ever notice how in advertisements, the happy families are those with sons. Ads which show parents being happy at the birth of a son or saving for their son's education send out wrong message and reinforce son preference in society. Foeticide and neglect of the girl child are a result of this.
With the introduction of Women's abuse bill there were 1000 complaints of domestic violence on women in delhi, 1 FIR was lodged...where are we heading?
The Indian Cricket team concentrating on endorsing brands and minting money rather than on the CUP...where is the focus?
Flirting at workplace gives and insures big assignments and promotions...where are the work ethics?
Signing off
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Wake up and smell the coffee
enigma | General | 22 February 2007, 11:20pm
Various thoughts passing through my mind right now kinda made me realise how things stand as of today...
People in search of their relatives who went missing since the samjhauta blasts, the big question they faced was who will they take home? The bodies charred beyond recognition...where is the security to human life?
With the budjet the middle class employee who always dreamt of buying a house and car would have to keep dreaming about it for his whole life...taking a loan of 20 lakhs and paying an EMI of 11,000...what will the person eat?
A land which is creaking under credit cards, where $2.4 trillion in amount consumers in the US owe, nearly one fifth the size of the total economy is still the land of big dreams for our people and they are willing to spend whatever they have earned to earn a visa for themselves....Is it so necessary to go to that land, i guess money is the factor.
Times when sincerity, hard work, dedication and commitment sound like abuses and hypocricy, buttering and comprimising on your ethics takes u places in your work..where is the professionalism?
When hardcore criminals get a death sentence after years of trial but again have the right to apply for a mercy petition and prolonge their life. Why the delay?
The rates of onions touching an all time high, what alternative is the common man inventing as a substitute for onions?
You know the HR of a big corporate, even tho ur profile and skills dont suit the job requirement, you are hired..genuine people are given some silly reason as currently there is no requirement, we will contact you when ever there is a need.
Aishwarya Rai and the Bacchan family visit a temple, it makes headlines. All the news channels broadcast it as its a national event.Give me a break....why such inconsequential stuff.
Lot more to write but am feeling sleepy right now..
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Live and Let Live
enigma | General | 19 January 2007, 12:12am
It was an eye opener of sorts for me recently, when i resumed posting on my thread in one of the forums started by members who were banned from fullhyd.I had returned after a break of almost a year and was happy posting my stuff on my thread.
One fine day i wake up to find comments like " all her posts are nothing but spam" a newcomer on the boards voicing his opinion was okay with me, but one pantulu bugger who had been an old member of fullhyd, where all of us posted in full glory for 2 yrs, suddenly finds my posts to be spam.
He abused me indirectly,thinking that i would break from within. With the support of two wonderful friends i did not even spare a minute thinking about that shit
I responded to that bugger's post and voiced my opinion and he retaliated back and 'hypocrites being hypocrites' supported him with manipulative and diplomatic answers.
Then my very good friend from Dallas who happened to find out about this nonsense, went and blasted them, word to word, abuse for abuse.
Pantulu ke chutti ho gayi and woh tik nahi paya.
Other senior members tried to let my friend down by suspecting his identity and they thought and racked their brains on who could it be..but no luck..
Set ideas, narrow thinking, cramped thoughts, limited focus of some of the members amazed me.
Pantulu advised i need more creativity to come up with something more original and not post my copy paste pics and feel good stuff.
He would continue posting his usual intellectual stuff like" i am farting" " i am having pappu" " i am shitting"
Give me a break!!!!! I have better things to do. Want to see groupism,, the big boss house is 1000 times better guys,,these forums are an example of groupism, jee huzuri, getting together and organising meets and having liquor in front of small kids...They are role models for the future generation.
Pantulu, maybe you can enlighten them on how they can be more creative and articulate. You are their guide and mentor, unless they kick you out.
I know you guys would be wondering what is all this that is being written,,atleast some people would truly relate to me that even if you want to go on doing your own thing, people would not let you do what you like.
Thanks to two wonderful friends i got out of that mess soon and am happy. Let that forum grow four folds with such characters who dont value others and their feelings. All the best to them.
Arre bhai jeeno do logon ko!!!!!!
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Disgusting Attitude
enigma | General | 11 December 2006, 9:46pm
Its been ages since i wrote on my blog...people think i have a sad story to tell everytime i get down to writing something...well its a way to let it out of my system.
I am totally disgusted with the way people play politics and corner genuine people in big corporates. The brand name, position, pay package all sound too good to be true..but the basic nature of the people has not changed...there is no element of professionalism seen anywhere.
I dont like you so you are my next target for a forced exit...is this funda so simple..a career is at the end of the firing line..a career which an individual has taken years to build. Earning a good name, fame, accolades for the good work, appreciations..all go down the drain if your boss thinks you are not bootlicking...how disgusting can ones attitude be....they watch out for an appropriate time and then corner you for even a baseless issue as simple as why did u not CC me on the mail which you sent out...
These buggers need to learn professionalism, work ethics, values and basic empathy and work knowledge otherwise you are screwed day in and day out for no fault of yours becoz you are too straightforward, popular, approachable and the best mgr around....
These corporate buggers need to get a hold of their professional duties and not target or corner innocent individuals just becoz they did not do chamchagiri but instead voiced their opinions...
I dont know how many of you would identify with me but this is what i have been experiencing lately and its utterly disgusting as no value or footage is given to hard work and dedication.
I was deeply hurt but thanx to a good support system of good friends, family and dear ones i am able to cope up with this pressure....otherwise such buggers would make even the brightest of individuals lose their self confidence...I will anyways not change and will always stick to my values...
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The inside story
enigma | General | 12 February 2006, 9:12pm
Felt like writing after a long while..have a lot of thoughts running in my mind ..i know nothing is going to happen even if i am going to think about it for my entire life..
you guys must be wondering if ever i have a happy story to tell you..as someone dear to me said i am a sad story,,maybe its true.
I am at work and i am made to do stuff which my consious does not permit me to do. A situation came up when a person resigned due to mgt problems and i was made to mediate to do the retention part when i was not at all concerned to the issue. They screwed it up and made me the scapegoat as they were shitting in their pants becoz of the fear that skeletons might tumble.I somehow handled the situation and convinced that person not to take any action where in my subconsious i know that i am wrong in doing so becoz that person was treated bad by the mgt.
I switch on the TV and see images of a bldg being burnt down and we dont have any equipment to combat. Our cranes cant even reach out to the 1st floor where the hell is all the money going. How are permissions given by the MCH if a blg is not equipped to combat fire or any such situation. I know nothing is going to change..it would be forgotten soon and life would move on. These bloody politicians give statements like u guys move ahead we will be behind you and the mass is so damn ignorant to listen to those fools.
We are heading no where. The system sucks and we are all caught in it. We will all rot together.
Hmmmmmmmm i guess i have so many things running in my mind but not able to express them. One wants to do something also is so damn helpless not to do what he/she feels right about. I have to listen to my mind rather than my heart most of the times and thats what scares me .........i dont know what i am writing and if i am making any sense in the first place..but this is my space
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Everything is artificial..
enigma | General | 25 December 2005, 12:45pm
I know that people are artificial when it comes to expressions, feelings, jestures wagera..but one thing that has come to light recently and which i have observed is that people do things just to get praise and recognition and not out of desire to do something..you may think there she goes again...its understood if someone does something to get a promotion or for personal development but for such a selfless pure act of kindness also do we need to be artificial?
Its a fact guys..people in big positions just do charity for the heck of it. They go to the orphanage and just dump the stuff for distribution and dont even distribute it themselves nor hold the childs hand or pat them on their shoulders. yaar when u cant feel for something no point in doing it. They would be sitting at a distance and would just make sure that the stuff is distributed..but was just thinking be it without any feelings still they are buying stuff for the kids...be it whatever.
Duniya he aise hai, kya kar sakte hain bolo....................................................................
Are you doing the right thing is the question we should ask ourself rather than pondering about how people are. But this was my observation in the recent weeks. I am going to spend some time with the kids today
Sorry to bore you folks again and again...becoz i felt that what was the point in doing something where ur soul is not involved especially for someone who does not have anyone smiling back at him or patting him on his back or holding his hand. They do not require the stuff yaar what they want is our smile and they want us to be their gaurdian angel........
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Keep The Faith
enigma | General | 17 December 2005, 3:45pm
There is always darkness in the heart and not always what we wish for can we get. Sometimes it prevents us from living as we wish. We can't imagine other people's pain It's hard for us to share it but today i thought the pain i was experiencing due to ill health was very less compared to what someone very dear to me was undergoing.
Life is what we make out of it. It is because of such nice people in the world it adds to the meaning of living your life. Just becoz some tell you that they have changed their feelings with the passage of time its not the end of the world..instead we should take it as a learning point. The world has nice people its just that we need to meet them.
End of the day what matters is we have people with us who care for us and make us happy. Empathy still rules i guess..being there for a person makes so much of difference.
Ok i know you guys would think okay again she is going on and on..i will sign off but all of you just "KEEP THE FAITH" the world is indeed beautiful...
Cheers
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crackpot
enigma | General | 11 December 2005, 2:06pm
Every human has worth!!!! everyone on this earth is born to contribute in his/her own way. I hear a lot about the term underperformer when i am at work..that really puts me off. Contribution of each individual is important. I was just thinking and remembered this story
"An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.
Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.
After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.
"I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house."
The old woman smiled, "Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.
"For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house."
Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. You've just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them".
So this story is for all my crackpot buddies who feel low and down..come on cheer up. Everyone has the potential but depends on various parameters to emerge on top.
So never never feel let down,,you never know how important you might be.
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Shuruaat
enigma | General | 06 December 2005, 12:29am
The day started with me being woken up by someone who is very dear to me..otherwise would have continued sleeping
I was excited as i was going to meet the kids today..picked up the stuff for them along with the goodies and reached the place..
Thought for a while where are the funds going..dusty environment, no drinking water,no proper hygiene, no footwear..kids just playing on the ground barefooted. They all gathered near the car thinking who had come..i went in an auto with the stuff loaded in the car..
I was taken into a big room where the kids would come to have their meals for the afternoon..i went inside..off loaded the stuff and waited for them.
At around 12:45 some 50 kids came jumping around and looking at the packets..one questioned as to what i had bought for them.
Their incharge made them sit down in a row..started the distribution..many of them did a namaste to me..i folded my hands and blessed them.
I asked one kid to distribute the goodies to everyone..some were like should we take the stuff for our friends..i did not know the exact count so would have to buy stuff for some children who had gone to attend college.
Everyone were holding their towel, pillow etc and wanting to rip apart the packet as to what else could there be..
Hmmmm i did not feel like coming back..promised them i would make a visit soon..one small kid held my little finger and asked me when was i coming next..
Before i get senti again i want to thank a few people who have been with me throughtout this experience and even if they have been far far away have been so close to enjoy the moment with me.
As 'Mass' said there has to be a beginning and someone would take it from there..
A smile on the kids key faces made my day boss..
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A drop in the ocean
enigma | General | 05 December 2005, 12:17am
I have got back to my daily routine again. I had a promise to keep to the kids and here i am..yesterday morning went and bought some stuff for the orphanage and the school. I am doing this little thingy for them tomm..want to see a smile on their faces.
But was thinking ke is this like going to solve their problems to any extent whatsoever. Dont know what to do to make their existence happy and worthwhile.
Folks dont think i have gone bonkers and thinking too much and i need to get a hold on myself. I am happy but meri wat lagi hue hai..
Will tell u all what happens tomm..till then cheers
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Empathy
enigma | General | 19 November 2005, 8:05pm
Empathy does make a difference
I sometimes wish that others see my point of view and what i am feeling. Stepping into another's shoes can make you feel the pain or joy that person is undergoing.
A positive feeling is generated when we come to know that someone cares for us and it does build a trustful bond.
What happens when empathy is missing..just simply saying i am sorry is not enough. One has to understand ones feelings to establish that connection.
Empathy is like a bear hug, a blanket of security and makes us feel special and safe.
But how many of us realise that. Everyone is too busy or people forget this factor but everyone requires it from someone in their time of need.
I guess i am becoming too philosophical of late. I am not able to see misery of any nature and getting too emotional about things.
Its a solace that i am with my parents presently taking a break from work but not for long. Today mom told me she loves me a lot and that she is proud to have a daughter like me, that she tells me often, but this time i felt more happy than usual.
I have caught up with movies now. I loved ghazni especially the hero and the storyline.Spending time at Imax and having my coffee with a sandwich was reliving old days. I went to my temple, the old age home..felt happy.
I have to go back again as i have a promise to keep. Dont know how to convince my parents but got to do it somehow.
Enough of my legacy,, got to enjoy the next week and make the most of it.
Am i thinking too much (from empathy to my personal legacy)
Just chill..chill..just chill
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New Light
enigma | General | 02 November 2005, 10:08am
I was sad the entire day on monday as this would be my first diwali away from my family..with great difficulty i got leave on diwali day so no time to fly home and get back. I thought i would avail the leave and rather be at home.
I went to the nearby market to purchase diyas and crackers there i saw street children hanging around the shops ..i suddenly thought why not spend the diwali with the kids at the orphanage..i bought a pkt each of crackers and gave to those kids and was happy to see them smile..i bought sweets, chocolates and crackers in bulk and not even bothering to have my lunch went to the orphanage,,,, all the kids were like wondering what has she got ..i distributed the stuff that was quiet a task..and then i helped the staff in lighting up the diyas in the night but some of the kids did not have new clothes for the festival..but i cheered them up and they had sweets and chocolates and we all burst crackers and had great fun..i had to return home to light diyas in my house as well..but i would cherish this diwali forever..it was special for me,, i was happy that i made so many innocent angels happy..hmmmmmm wish i could do that everyday of my life.
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Life Moves On
enigma | General | 31 October 2005, 5:10am
I woke up and looked at the time its a bit too early for me to get up,the weekend was very hectic as usual with me going to work to catch up on pending stuff, and i could complete my work in peace as no hustle bustle around and no one to disturb me...went out for dinner last night, it was good.
Saturday the day started off as normal with me going to the temple in the morning and coming back , as i switched on the tv with my morning coffee in hand saw those horrifying images of the train accident, felt sad, as tho the rains and floods were'nt enough.
Still feeling miserable went to work, worked for a couple of hours then my colleague called me up and we went out,got back home at 8 in the night and on my comp could see messages stating there were serial bomb blasts in delhi, my parents are both there presently, my heart stopped for a min as it being diwali and we do celebrate in a big way so all kinds of weird thoughts engulfed me at that time i grabbed the phone and called up, dad picked up and said they were home, heaved a sign of relief and talked to them for an hour..and then switched on the tv...what did the innocent people do to deserve that death, so many questions cropped up and i had no answers to any.
I was thinking so many people die everyday be it due to natural calamities, or due to terrorism or due to depression,sickness or natural death and life just moves on for the rest..
Yesterday i discussed about the events of saturday with my colleagues and today is another day..life would move on for me but would it move on for the families of those who died..it would eventually but it might not be the same.
I feel so hopeless and helpless
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Time to take control
enigma | General | 08 October 2005, 11:49pm
Had enough of everything..its the time to enjoy and take control of my life..thought enough about people, situations and misery of others..now is the time to think about myself..
I have started giving it back to people..dont take any nonsense from anyone now..and suddenly people have stopped ordering me around..its working
I have better things to think about.. in this short life span of mine,, rather than worry about work, people wagera..
I have started to state my mind and its working..tho i am still slogging but still people know what i am thinking
Thanks to my colleagues who put some sense into my head last weekend over lunch..
Life is what we make of it and not what it makes us into..hope i continue with this attitude so that atleast i wont get hurt easily..
I want to take a break from everything and enjoy my days doing what i like doing and not doing something i am told to do..
Hope my health does not give up on me..for i have to see so much in life still..
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Time to act
enigma | General | 30 September 2005, 11:30pm
Do we really need to kill our self respect or leave it behind when working under someone who keeps waiting to show you everytime what u need to be doing..and not give you time to even breathe... I have been facing this bloody torture for a month now and have been working real hard as i mentioned in my previous blog..i have no issues working..but at the end of the day one statement or a comment puts water on the hard work you have put during the entire day..a comment as stupid as "why you need to accompany someone to the sick room..a waste of time ..you could have continued with ur training" is there no human element left in people..have we all become so bloody mechanical or its just a comment to let you down and show you what your place is..while they can pass away their time shooting mails and discussing about where they are going for the weekend..
Corporates suck big time..especially if you have psychos to report to..not able to take it any more..when you handle 4 peoples tasks for the entire day and still no satisfaction..basically people like to rule over other people and keep snubbing them down..but i think about my team than about myself..i think everyone is important and deserve to be treated with dignity and care.
Maybe my expectations are too much as i am a simple person who is straight forward and dont know of any tactical moves to survive in this big bad industry..and i dont want to learn how to survive also..the day i feel i have had enough would just leave..
Bottomline: Never let a person down if he/she is putting in the effort just to show your level and be rational and not behave like a bloody psycho..one day you might have to face the same from someone else..then you would know how painful it is .
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Try not to disappoint people who put in the hard work..a lesson to be learnt by everyone
One of the greatest responsibilities we have is to support ourselves and others in living at our highest and best. Whether we're parents, partners, friends or leaders, it's incumbent upon us to help others to live as close to their unique potential as we can.
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1. Believe in Them
We all have self-doubts from time to time. Our confidence is shaken. We lack the faith in our talents and skills to go for an important promotion or launch a new initiative. Having someone believe in you at these times is priceless. The stories of great men and women are saturated with examples of someone who believed in them even when they didn't fully believe in themselves.
2. Encourage Them
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3. Expect a Lot
We're often told not to get our hopes up. We're encouraged to have REALISTIC expectations. But when it comes to helping others operate at their best, we sometimes have to up-level our expectations. This can be taken to extremes, but there are many times when a teacher, a parent or even a boss has required more of us than we thought we were capable. And we've risen to the challenge which enabled us to see further than before.
4. Tell the Truth
And tell it with compassion. We often avoid telling the hard truth because we don't want to upset anyone. We want to be NICE. But telling the truth is a loving act. You may be the only person who can or will say to another what needs to be said. And you can confront someone without being combative. See Top Ten Ways to Confront Without Being Combative.
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One of the best ways we influence is by our own actions. Who we are speaks much more loudly than what we say. Don't think that people aren't watching you. They are. And they're registering everything about you consciously and unconsciously. We automatically emulate our role models. And we're ALL role models to someone so let's be good ones.
6. Share Yourself
Too often, we miss the value of sharing our failings. We don't want to be vulnerable so we hold back. In doing so, we deprive others of our experience, our learning and our humanity. When you share from your own experience -- especially your failures -- you increase empathy, you're more approachable and you increase your relatability to others.
7. Challenge Them
The word "challenge" has some negative connotations. The meaning we're using here is, "a test of one's abilities or resources in a demanding but stimulating undertaking." We all need to be challenged from time to time. Doing it for another is an art form. Go too far and it will backfire. Go too easy and you will appear patronizing. Remind people of their commitment to being their best and state your challenge. "I challenge you to overcome these unimportant opinions and get on with the real task at hand, get the job done, make the commitment, etc."
8. Ask Good Questions
A good therapist or coach doesn't tell their clients what to do. They ask good questions in order for the client to understand themselves better, to get clear on what the issue is and from there to make good choices. You can do the same. By asking elegant questions, you cause people to think and come up with solutions. They'll appreciate it. Gary Lockwood has a good article about this called Asking Intelligent Questions with Impact.
9. Acknowledge Them
You find what you're looking for. If you're looking for the best in someone, you'll see it. If you're looking for their failings, you'll see those. Catch people doing things right and tell them. When we acknowledge the good deeds of others, they tend to do more of them. Write a note. Send a card. Give them a call. Praise them in front of others.
10. Spend Time with Them
We love what we give our time to. By devoting your most precious resource (time) to another individual, you're showing them that you truly value them and your relationship with them. Invest time in your relationships; it's what life is made of.
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