No time
enigma | General | 27 September 2005, 11:51pm
Life has become like a machine,,get up,,go to work,,work for 12hrs and come back and sleep,,for around 5 days this routine continues.
One of the most difficult parts of this life is that our hearts'desires are not always fulfilled. Sometimes i keep thinking that the purpose of my existence is not to make a living, but to make a life.
Life is short, what did you do yesterday that you want to be remembered by,,we should not allow ourselves to be consumed by life's problems instead should be consumed with life's joys
Apart from working like a dog day and night ,,,missing out on the evenings,,not being able to see the sunset nor sitting by the sea and gazing into eternity,,but where is the time for all that,,weekened comes and goes where i spend half the time sorting out stuff that i was not able to do during the weekdays,,
Earning money and leading a good life would matter to people but how much are we losing out on is the big question,,the very purpose of our mechanical existence is so disturbing,,
I guess i am a confused soul,,who wants to do so much more and enjoy the little things that life has to offer me,,becoz i believe that life is not a contest but a chance to do the best we can with what we have,,my policy is to go slow but god has been kind to give me almost everything without asking for them,,but still that something is missing
Life's trials are ultimately what you make of them,,i guess i have to take out time and not crib about it..
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Current Music: ek ajnabi haseena
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NRIs buy gifts from Dollar Shops!?!
enigma | General | 15 September 2005, 8:57pm
This is just not my observation, its what most of my friends think about NRIs. These guys leave the country in search of big dreams and big bucks..most of them are able to fulfill that dream...their folks back home think proudly of them..as they have made a good life for themselves..
They stay for a year or two and when they come for a visit back home..they plan to buy gifts for their friends,relatives and parents ..for most of their shopping they end up visiting the dollar tree or the dollar shops...picking up stuff in bulk for a dollar each..i have heard.. guys buying latest cell phones and laptops for themselves and gifting the old ones they had to their parents or siblings as "gifts"...
For what have they gone there for????? What are they getting out of the whole experience of buying such cheap gifts for the people who love them and who await their return ever so eagerly...why is their tendency like that...
I can understand if people who have gone as students do such a thing..but i know of many many people who are docs, scientists and well settled professionals who buy such cheap gifts for their loved ones..and the same people once in india are gifted expensive items worth thousands...why do NRIs behave so stingy ....do they not have the heart to spend a few extra dollars for gifting stuff to their folks....
They would be busy and working their entire lives in that alien country...but for what???? Their parents would have a two bedroom house ..and what would their son/ daughter working in the states own ...a three bedroom house...so is this all worth it for just an extra bedroom
My basic dilemma is why is the basic thought process of an NRI so different ...they are given a 5 star treatment when they are in india.. but they would be leading a life of isolation in a foreign land.....they would crib that india is not developing in terms of infrastructure and the quality of life is poor here...agreed to all that...but we have bigger hearts boss...we dont pick up stuff from the dollar shops to gift our parents....
This does not mean all NRIs do that...but yes a majority of them do..and my write up is based on the discussion that i had with most of my friends who live in the US....
So even if one person decides to pick up a good decent gift to gift his/her parents,brothers,sisters, relatives and friends instead of buying the cheap maal and giving big big projections ..my purpose of putting my thoughts together would be served.
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No time for anyone
enigma | General | 03 September 2005, 11:12am
A person spends so much time building a rapport, relationship, bonding etc with another person. When the time comes to test each of these it takes a minute to realize that what a waste of time it was.
When you need a person to talk to or share your feelings or thoughts, the very people whom you thought would be there for you are not even willing to spare a little time to listen to you. They start giving excuses like sorry my mobile is going out of charge… will send you a message later… I have to go to the toilet…I am taking a class…. I am watching a movie so on and so forth
For the very same people you would have been awake the entire night looking up things and supporting them in what ever way you could. When you mention that to them the response is "okay if you did all that then what do you expect from me now..do we do things expecting something in return"…that is what pains me the most. I have come to terms with such things now…….i am too na
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Being Yourself
enigma | General | 24 May 2005, 12:30pm
Please excuse me for i cant write well, but could not resist writing what i felt.
The past week had been a sort of an eye opener for me in a few aspects. Me as a person has always believed in being myself and stating what i felt, this belief of mine has hurt me more in the past few days.
I always believed that happiness was a state of mind. It is not caused simply by entertaining your whims. It is not lived by accumulating moments of pleasure, but i believe its being in love with living, a reward for achieving a good character and good values in life.I am a person who enjoys the little things which life offers me, rather than, aspiring for bigger objectives.
One becomes a target for not accepting what others want you to do, their usual complaint being( why start off with a "NO"). They want us to be proactive all the time and say a "YES" even if that is not what we want to do. I bore a lot of silent torture for saying a NO
Your friends suddenly dont seem to identify with you, they feel you are blaming them for everything, even if you never had those intentions. Nowadays its better to be unconcerned, ignorant and artificial when it comes to handling people. I have to learn a lot and i am beginning to realise that. I am a person who thinks a lot about people, rather than about myself.
People would realise my worth at some point of time and then it would be too late i guess.
I dont know if i am being able to express myself properly, but i sometimes feel i want to change and be like others, It hurts a lot to be different and believe me its painful.
Hmmmmm but again, is that what i want to be? I guess "NO" because then again i realised that i have people around me who like me for who i am. I dont want to disappoint them by changing myself.
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Current Music: Its my life
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