6 Apr 2005
Lost in Transition?
"Do you love me?" Marthe asked suddenly.
Mersault burst out laughing. "Now that's a serious question."
"Answer me!"
"People don't love each other at our age, Marthe - they please each other, that's all. Later on, when you are old and impotent, you can love someone. At our age, you just think you do. That's all it is."
- An excerpt from A Happy Death by Albert Camus
How true! How true! Camus is a genius.
Love: a four-letter word used by everybody to package the combination of the egress of biological instinct and obsession for psychological security, and a wholly selfish emotion in the form of a most expansive state of mind. A socially-endorsed, culturally-imposed drug that, aided by art and literature, sustains immaturity across generations inebriated with delusion. Without doubt, the most misconstrued and exploited word after God.
It's a painful realisation - for anyone who does realise - that nobody really loves but everybody believes he does. Love - that gift from heaven - have we lost it somewhere on our road to civilization? Or, was it never there at all? A bad turn. Worse, we don't even realise it!
Current Mood: Happy
Current Music: Ilaiyaraja-apostrophe-s instrumentals
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By Vj
11 Apr 2005, 6:41pm [ Reply ]
@Which I: true! i feel if one really loves, there is no need to 'declare' it. the problem is people do not love and hence this fixation for 'declaring'. it's all about trade - "i want you to know that i love you, that i invest so much time thinking of you, so i expect you to give me a good return on my investment". else, as you said, if i really love someone, why don't i just love and finish with it?
By Vj
11 Apr 2005, 5:55pm [ Reply ]
@Which I: true! i feel if one really loves, there is no need to 'declare' it. the problem is people do not love and hence this fixation for 'declaring'. it's all about trade - "i want you to know that i love you, that i invest so much time thinking of you, so i expect you to give me a good return on my investment". else, as you said, if i really love someone, why don't i just love and finish with it?
By Which I?
11 Apr 2005, 4:06pm [ Reply ]
Well, these are my thoughts at the moment:
Love, in itself, is (perhaps) very beautiful; but the word "love" can have onerous (!) connotations, so to speak.
I mean, what's the need for one to "declare" love and invite all kinds of complications into a relationship, when one has the option of actually "loving" the person ad infinitum, without ever feeling the need for "declaring" it?
By mls
11 Apr 2005, 11:23am [ Reply ]
"Love is an ocean without shores. You must learn to bear it."
-- JALAL AL-DIN RUMI
If that were really true, it would really surprise me if people had so much courage or .... faith.