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Posted by Versatility | 05/08/2004 14:24

LOVERS 101 - The Little Things Matter!
(Alternatively: "The Devil Is In The Detail!)

It has become very apparent to me, through many of my dear female friends, that some of you men have no clue on how to express and show your love, appreciation and respect of your women!

I count myself very fortunate in being brought up well by parents who taught me that the little things really do matter.

Take for instance the concept of "Romance" This has become a misconceived notion of flowers, chocolates and champagne. No! These are mere marketing ploys, enabling money hungry corporate fatcats to become even richer. Romance is not the material goods you can provide but an ATTITUDE.

It is all about making the person you care for feel special. If you act like a gentlemen, by doing small gestures, like opening the door for her, allowing her to sit before you, listening to her attentively not just pretending to or doing a yes-dear-type of conversation,  sharing smiles and laughs, and generally making her feel like the queen that she is to YOU, then you have accomplished true romance.

You do not need to purchase anything to show romance. Its in the way you speak to her, hold her hand, laugh at her jokes, compliment her ideas and style and generally make it known that you value her company and her intelligence and everything she has to offer. That's true romance.

So why do some of you men feel the need to do extravagant, elaborate actions to try and express your love for your woman? Not only are they hard to organise, but they do NOT last. They are momentary events. To make your expression of love easier, give her the little things. Again, these range from smiling as you listen to her, acknowledging her opinions, holding a door open for her or just a gentle kiss on the cheeks or the tip of the nose.

Little things really do go a long way, and the long road of relationships starts but with a step!

Current Mood: Preachy
Current Music: Youre Once, Twice, Three Times A Lady - Commodores


  1. Posted by Yas
    5 Aug 2004, 3:24pm

    Aye! Well said! where can I enrol my better half?

  2. Posted by cat
    5 Aug 2004, 7:45pm

    lol, cant wait for lovers 202 :S

  3. Posted by aloque
    5 Aug 2004, 7:53pm

    How many WOMEN got this memo?

  4. Posted by Aran
    5 Aug 2004, 9:04pm

    Ahem. Aren't you lumping 'women' into ONE category? I don't think I agree with you here. Who says I don't want big things? :p

  5. Posted by Mayavi
    6 Aug 2004, 4:01am

    "So why do some of you men feel the need to do extravagant, elaborate actions to try and express your love for your woman"
    Your assumption is that the men who do the above donot express love through simple gestures (opening door!? I aint durbaan but I open door for men and woman alike and thank god, no man took it as a romantic gesture..eeks), which is plain wrong.

    Little things matter but not materialistic things combined with small gestures matter most ;)

  6. Posted by Mayavi
    6 Aug 2004, 4:02am

    ignore the 'not' in last line.

  7. Posted by versatility
    6 Aug 2004, 5:28am

    Mayavi, I appreciate that not all men are ignorant to the ways of expression. It was written based on many men I have heard that have missed the lesson in Lovers 101 and treat their women so badly. Glad youre one of the fellow good guys.

  8. Posted by maverick
    25 Aug 2005, 2:02am

    Are you gay !

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